My husband’s kids didn’t like me. They never did. But my husband, Jack, stood by me when they crossed the line. His actions taught them a big lesson, leading to apologies and a chance to mend our relationships.
Jack had three kids from his first marriage when we met. Their mom had passed away years before I came into the picture. When Jack introduced me to them, it was clear they weren’t thrilled about it. Understandable, given the age gap between Jack and me.
I’m ten years older than Jack, and we’ve been together for over nine years, engaged for four. His kids, all over 21, never warmed up to me. Even though I never tried to replace their mom, they made me feel unwelcome whenever we were together.
I only moved in after they had left for college. Yet, they continued to act like I didn’t belong. When Jack proposed, they got even colder, disrespecting me behind his back. I kept quiet to avoid conflict, knowing Jack had already faced enough challenges as a single dad.
Jack worked hard to provide for his kids, even after they moved out. He wanted to make up for their mom’s absence. We finally had a small civil wedding, which his kids didn’t attend. They claimed they had other plans. We shrugged it off and focused on our honeymoon in the Bahamas.
But just two days into our trip, his kids showed up uninvited. They mocked me, belittled our relationship, and ruined our special time. When Jack found out, he unleashed his fury, kicking them out and cutting off their financial support.
It was tough love, but it worked. His kids realized their mistake and apologized. Jack forgave them, and we started anew, building a stronger bond than before. His actions during our honeymoon not only protected our happiness but also taught his kids important lessons about respect and responsibility. In the end, our family emerged stronger, thanks to Jack’s tough but necessary decisions.
Vet reveals the shocking reason you should never hug your dog
A vet has warned how a ‘hug’ can make a dog feel, and it’s not necessarily what you would expect
A vet has warned that it could be a bad idea to ‘hug’ your dog, as it could have the opposite effect on them to what us humans feel.
There’s nothing nicer than coming home from a long day at work to your furry friend scurrying as fast as they can to the door to greet you.
Your natural reaction is usually to bend down and give them a big cuddle, and whilst it might look like they’re loving every second – it might not be what they’re really feeling.
Dog experts are now warning owners to find different ways of showing their love.
According to a vet who spoke to Psychology Today, a hug can actually make a dog feel quite anxious and trapped – this is because a dog’s primary defence is to run away.
Psychologist Stanley Coren explained: “Yes, your dog may leap into your lap and kiss your face, cuddle against your neck, and beg you to rub her belly.
“But that’s not ‘hugging.’
“In my experience, many dogs don’t enjoy having a human move one or two arms around their shoulders and squeeze.
“That’s the hug we are talking about.”
Behaviour Vets author Lauren Novack believes dogs who do enjoy hugs are a complete ‘exception’, reports Daily Paws.
She said: “When dogs don’t like something and politely ask for space over and over again to no avail, they’re likely to escalate their communication to growling or biting.
“I don’t want dogs to be stressed, and I don’t want humans to get bitten. For most dogs, hugs are stressful.”
Stanley previously analysed 250 photos of dogs being given hugs, and he found that in 80% of the images, the dogs showed signs of looking stressed.
And he noted that this can be indicated by a dog lowers their ears, closing their eyes, or turning away from the source of anxiety.
And the psychologist has now revealed some much better alternatives.
He said: “The clear recommendation to come out of this research is to save your hugs for your two-footed family members and lovers.
“It is clearly better from the dog’s point of view if you express your fondness for your pet with a pat, a kind word, and maybe a treat.”
And the last thing we want to do is upset our furry babies, so we’re definitely going to take this advice on board!
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