Matt Heath: My parting message: Enjoy things while they are around

A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.

Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.

Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.

Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.

Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.

A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”

Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.

While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?

Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”

With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.

There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).

A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.

Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.

Bless!

Prayers are needed for Kurt Russell. What happened to him is terrible…

Kurt Vogel Russell is an American actor.At the age of twelve, he made his screen debut in a western series.Russell’s portrayal in Mike Nichol’s Silkwood earned him a nomination for a 1983 Golden Globe for Best Supporting Actor.Massachusetts’ Springfield is where Russell was born.Bing, his father, was an artist as well.His mother is ballerina Louise Julia Russell.Kurt Russell reportedly has a virulent flesh-eating sickness, according to The Globe.The 65-year-old actor from Hateful 8 is said to have had unattractive ulcers under his lower lip, which are a result of Peutz-Jeghers Syndrome (PJS), a condition that has been connected to colon cancer.Cancer.According to Net, “people with PJS may have a lifetime risk of cancer of up to 93%.”Dr. Stuart Fischer, who does not treat Kurt, described the ulcers as “precancerous lesions that can become aggressive and dangerous if not treated immediately and properly.”

Immunologist and Maryland resident Dr. Gabe Mirkin concurs that Kurt “needs immediate testing” and thinks PJS could be the cause of the ulcers.He needs to start counseling right away.We must pray for Kurt Russell. The Globe also claims that Kurt recently got into a fight with Goldie Hawn, his 71-year-old longtime partner.In October, Kurt was supposed to be honored into Oklahoma City’s Hall of Great Western Performers.The Hollywood Walk of Fame already bears his name.Kurt, though, is unable to attend because of a “surprise medical issue.”The actor insisted in a statement that he need surgery, which his doctor stated was a necessary treatment that couldn’t be put off.

The Oklahoman reports that he is scheduled to undergo hip replacement surgery.”My doctors say it needs to happen in September, but I thought it could wait.”As much as I would have hoped to be there this year, I am pleased that the museum has decided to postpone our honor until 2022 so I can accept this wonderful prize in person, Russell stated in the statement.We applaud Kurt Russell on being inducted into the Hall of Great Western Performers!We hope that his treatment later this month goes well and he recovers quickly.

Bottom line: Despite having his name already on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, Kurt ought to be admitted into Oklahoma City’s Hall of Great Western Performers.Kurt, though, is unable to attend because of a “surprise medical issue.”The actor, 64, was spotted in New Orleans sporting cuts and bruises on his face and arms.Kurt Russell has a fatal flesh-eating sickness, according to The Globe.

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